This is a blog I wrote sometime last year, but it's just been shoved away in some file on my computer. I think it is pretty awesome and I wanted to share..
Ok women, I want you to imagine that you are living with your vagina pulled inside out- dangling from your body and wholly unprotected. It’s sensitivity exposed to the world.
Ok, so now I’m sure I have your attention, lol. But, in all seriousness, this is a great level of vulnerability that is at the core of a man’s physical experience. How often do we women really appreciate and understand this fact? If you had this blatant “weak” or sensitive spot- you would learn to act in a way that would prevent it from getting hurt. You would begin to act more quickly- to be less passive. To just DO. This “acting-without-thinking” quality that we so often associate with men is usually blamed on men’s black and white thinking- their inability to detect nuances and perceive shades of grey. Their “simplistic minds”- but this is so far from the truth!
Men, being so hyper exposed and overly sensitive develop quick reaction times in an attempt to protect themselves. It is not that they CAN’T feel- but because they feel so deeply and powerfully. But, when unmanaged, sensitivity can cause pain- and we fear and dread and -often- live our lives running from pain. - and thus the man was born.
Coming into this realm utterly exposed- wholly vulnerable. The “male” begins to act quickly and impulsively in an attempt to thwart the pain. They are constantly on-guard -ready to throw energy at you in aggressive way that will push the potential perpetrator away. They throw the energy out and around them as a defensive shield- as a buffer.This buffer dulls feelings, but also their intuition. Because of their disconnect from their intuition, they solidify beliefs about how need to protect themselves in their physical bodies. However, because of their disconnect from their intuition, their energy is not only thrown defensively at threats, but also at minor triggers of the false belief they’ve been holding onto.
There is certainly an unspoken truth among women that we are really the more grounded, stable, and more emotionally-intelligent gender. We compare men to dogs and laugh at their outbursts. We let them get away with hell because, one some levels because we believe they can’t be held to the standards we hold ourselves. We must shift this thinking and begin seeings men in their truth. We must respect their masculinity, which is fueled by an inherent sensitivity. We must trust their highly-sensitive nature, even if it is delivered in a not-so-tactful package. We must come to them from a place of compassions and understanding and assist them in using their sensitivity in productive ways. Because, us women, are masters and diving into the depths of emotions, we can help them so greatly in this respect. It is imperative that we begin to perceive the inherent sensitivity and fear of pain behind their actions, and generate empathy and compassion for their experience.
Both of us are magical, both of us are alchemsitsts; capable of intaking and transmuting energy. Because of our differing energetic structures, we have different strength and weaknesses. When we fully understand our perceived weaknesses, and see them in truth- we come to find that they double as our greatest gifts. Women, being less naturally sensitive, are more apt to hold onto painful sensations instead of needing to immediately act on them. This allows us to explore these sensations, to sink to their depths. Our ability to feel this deeply does not lie in an inherent weakness, but in an inherent strength.
On the other hand, men’s ability to act is not based out of a disconnect from feelings and emotions, but because of a deep inherent sensitivity. Let us disconnect from our preconceived notions about each gender and realize that we both are derived from a complex mix of complementary, but equally potent and magical properties. Let us all come together in appreciate and respect for our inherent nature and honor each other and the bodies that we chose to inhabit in this lifetime.
I believe that the first step in healing is to TRULY honor and embrace the sensitivity inherent to men- by giving importance and validity to their feelings. Just because we do not “undestand” them does not mean what they are perceiving is not truth… It just means we are not tuned into what they are tuned into. By honoring the perceptions of men we will give them the freedom to explore their intuitions, feelings, and nudges. When men connect fully into their sensitive nature and learn to exalt this potential “weakness” it will become their greatest strength- their magic, their gift. They will, as a gender, be exalted to their purest and highest form.